I've been following a conversation over at Silentbeeps blog about friends that know about our fat acceptance activities who make fat phobic comments.
Today when I saw my mother she said something to the effect of, “that's a really nice shirt it makes you look thinner.”
We had an interesting conversation about how her comment supports the stigma. She politely listened and offered her own defensiveness which is par for the course when discussing this with my mom. I wasn't particularly upset or angry or irritated. I just found it interesting to note that making one look's appear to be thinner is equated with good thing.
I know this basic 101 stuff, however, I'm glad that I was able to recognize it for what it was without having to get upset or irritated.
It's a nice shirt, period.